Strengths and Weaknesses – Part 2 Minimizing Your Weaknesses

Every personality type has some natural weaknesses. (Yes, EVERY one.) We need to be mature enough to be honest with ourselves about the areas in our lives that can be or have become weaknesses. strengthsandweaknesses

Hopefully, you have enough self-awareness to zero in on these areas, but if you are having trouble, find someone who you really trust and have them go over the list of common weaknesses for your color(s) with you. If they have lived with you or worked with you, and are honest with you, chances are good they will be able to show you some areas where you could grow.

Often our weaknesses are a result of strengths that are carried to the extreme and then become weaknesses. For example, in Yellows being able to talk easily and tell stories can turn into dominating conversations and not paying attention to other people. The Red’s natural leadership abilities when not kept in check can become bossy, argumentative and confrontational. Blues are known for their attention to detail, but perfectionism taken too far can mean being hard to please and critical of others and their efforts. The cool, calm, collected nature of the Green personality can lead to indecisiveness and/or laziness if it goes too far.

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Strengths and Weaknesses – Part 1 Maximizing Your Strengths

Perhaps the single biggest advantage in learning about personality types is being able to understand your own natural strengths and weaknesses. strengthsandweaknessesThere is no one “best” personality type. The purpose of what I teach is to help people better UNDERSTAND themselves and others and to become aware of their own strengths and weaknesses. The goal is not to become a different personality type. It is to learn to MAXIMIZE your STRENGTHS, and MINIMIZE your WEAKNESSES.

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Lessons from The Heat

I recently watched the movie The Heat starring Sandra Bullock and Melissa McCarthy. To be honest, I’m still not entirely sure if I liked the The-Heatmovie or not, and please don’t take this as an official recommendation. However, I will say that I found it fascinating to watch the interaction between the two main characters in the story.

Any normal person might watch this movie and see it as the story of a straight-laced, by the book FBI agent (Sandra Bullock) and a street smart, rough-around-the-edges cop (Melissa McCarthy). But not me…no story is that simple for this personality trainer. I saw two strong Red personalities who were clashing over the “right” way to handle a situation.

heat-gallery1I saw one Red whose secondary personality was Yellow and the other one who was what I call a Red Blue. Both were confident, driven, focused and ambitious. But one was outspoken and impulsive while the other other followed had systems and plans and protocol. While the story itself was sometimes funny, yet often “over the top,” what I saw were two personalities interacting in a way that echoes what I observe in real life.

When it comes to working WITH someone, most Yellows have fun working with other Yellows, Blues like working with other Blues, and Greens feel comfortable working with other Greens. But when two Reds try to work together, more often than not, there is conflict…a power struggle. Reds tend to be quick to decide what is “right” in a situation but if the two Reds have come to different conclusions about what “right” looks like, conflict is almost always going to follow. This is especially true when the Reds have opposite secondary personalities as we saw with the characters in The Heat.

For two Reds to work through their differences and successfully achieve their goals Bullock McCarthy The Heattogether, typically two things need to happen. First, they have to agree on the end goal. In this example, catching the bad guy (don’t want to give too many spoilers in case this post inspires you to go watch the movie) had to be more important to each of them than the process itself. Secondly, they have to figure out how to use their differences to move them both closer to the end goal. They must be willing and able to learn from each other.

The Heat may or may not be your type of movie, but if you watch it, I hope you see some of the characters’ personality traits in yourself as well as your colleagues, co-workers, employees or supervisors. We can, at least sometimes, learn real life lessons from Hollywood.

Have you watched The Heat? What do you think of my assessment of their personalities? What other movies have you seen lately where you see different personalities interacting with each other?