Personalities and the Holidays: Always Be Your Best “YOU”

This time of year seems to bring about a wider variety of emotions than any other week in the year. Memories…good, bad, happy, sad. Family gatherings…cherished, dreaded or somewhere in between. Conversations…with loved ones, other ones, in-laws or out-laws. How can you make the most out of your upcoming interactions with the people in your life? Always be your best YOU.

Remember that everyone has his/her unique blend of the personality types. You cannot change that, but you are responsible for being the best YOU that you can be. Here are a few tips to help guide you through the maze of the upcoming week.

YELLOWS – It’s okay to be focused on fun. Just be sensitive to people who are feeling different emotions. Remember to let other people share their stories, and really listen to what they are saying rather than thinking about the story you are going to tell next.

BLUES – You may prefer smaller groups of people but if you have a big family, don’t pull back to much or too soon. If you feel yourself starting to get overwhelmed, sit with one person for a while and focus on having a good conversation with that individual. And don’t get upset if things don’t go perfectly. Savor the memories being made so you can enjoy them later in the quiet of your own home.

REDS – Relax! It’s okay to have a plan for the activities and events, but don’t get so caught up in your plan that no one wants to participate (or be around you). Focus on people…not tasks and things. Be in the moment.

GREENS – Say “yes” to invitations. Visit with friends and family. If you find yourself worried about a possible conflict arising, remember that your peaceful presence can be a huge blessing in those circumstances.

Think about those around you – and why they are around you. Find ways to be yourself, while showing love and spreading joy. Merry Christmas!

Personalities & the Holidays: Finding the Right Gift

Do you sometimes struggle with finding the “right” gift for some of the people on your list? Do you have that person in your life who doesn’t really “need” anything but you still want to find something special and personal to give them this year? Try a new approach to shopping and gift giving – think about the people on your list in terms of their personalities.


Who are the Yellows on your list? When shopping, keep in mind that Yellows love to have fun, and tend to like bold, bling, or sparkle that makes them stand out. With this in mind, think about the specific interests of each person. If you are going to buy her some jewelry, get a sparkly statement piece. Does he wear ties? Choose a fun one by Jerry Garcia. Tickets to a comedy show or a night out of drinks and dancing might be just the right gift for someone who loves to laugh and be out with other people.


How about the Blues in your life? Blues tend to prefer quiet activities that they can do alone. Look for things that will appeal to their need for order and perfection. Is there a new book out by her favorite author? What quiet activities do they enjoy? Working a jigsaw puzzle or building a model perhaps? Personalize a gift like that by ordering a custom photo puzzle or choosing a model kit that is a replica of favorite car or boat. If this is for someone you live with, cleaning up and organizing an area that is currently chaotic, might just be more meaningful than any “thing” you could purchase.


Do you have any Reds on your list? Remember that efficiency and practicality are the primary motivators of the Red personality type. They tend to appreciate gifts that solve problems and make day to day tasks simpler and more efficient. I’m not suggesting you should run out and buy your wife a new vacuum for Christmas, but of all the personalities, Reds are the most likely to appreciate a well planned, practical gift. Where does she work? Is there something you could buy that would support her business endeavors? What kind of tool would he most like to have on hand the next time something needs fixing? This is the time to be really practical.


And what about those Greens? Greens are easy to shop for because they will appreciate whatever you give them. But think about their built-in desire for peace and comfort. How about a warm, cozy blanket and her favorite kind of coffee beans or flavored tea? A night to have dinner ordered IN is sure to be appreciated by a Green. While Yellows want to go out and enjoy being “spoiled” publicly, most Greens would rather stay home, and still enjoy the benefit of someone else doing the cooking.


I hope this gives you a few ideas of things to think about as you finish up your Christmas shopping. Have fun, and be sure to tell me about your favorite personality-based gift ideas!

A Double Header! ProNet and Toastmasters

I love to talk. I always have. But I love it even more when I am speaking to share a message. This was the case yesterday…twice!

In the morning, I presented my Personalities & Networking seminar to an organization called ProNet. ProNet is a professional network to assist the currently unemployed to re-enter the work force. It is really cool to see people so dedicated to improving themselves and learning new skills. It was a fun presentation and the audience response was great. Understanding personalities is a powerful business tool, in both current and future business relationships. (And it may even help you understand some past ones…)

Last night, was my Sierra Advanced Speakers Toastmasters Club Christmas meeting/party. We still had prepared speeches, formal evaluations, and table topics but we also added in a potluck dinner and a gift exchange. Since the Tale of the Three Trees is my favorite story, and I happen to working through an advanced manual on storytelling I signed up months ago to speak at this meeting. I hope that the story I shared stays with the members of the audience throughout this Christmas season and beyond.

Merry Christmas!